I wrestled with the title of this post the same way, maybe a little less than, I wrestled with something one of my daughters said to me a few days ago.
She had something she wanted to show me. I loved the new closet doors as soon as I saw them. But I saw a flaw.
In recent years I've noticed a pattern in myself that I don't like. One that kind of just slipped in and now it's time to get rid of it. It's another lesson.
What I said wasn't a bad thing. I didn't insult the work, but something negative came out of my mouth.
Thankfully, my daughter wasn't afraid to point it out to me. I felt bad about it and wrestled with my feelings for a few days. My feelings were trying to be hurt. But really, I'm so glad she said something to me, because I want to be an encourager. God has called me to let those kinds of things go and to let them be opportunities for me to see the 'flaws' that are actually in me.
And before I go on, I have to say it wasn't actually a flaw in the work. My son in law does excellent work. The job just wasn't complete. The doors were pushed out by what was inside because the little part that they roll back and forth on wasn't installed yet.
And so, I have to say, the same is true with me. There isn't actually a flaw in me. God's work with me isn't yet complete. He's still working on me. And so I wrestle with my thoughts.
The lesson I'm learning is that 'if you don't have anything good to say, don't say anything at all'. Yes, it's an old one, but it's come to visit me once again. The Bible tells us to let our words become beautiful gifts that encourage others. That's the kind of person I want to be! I want to allow the things that are revealed to me about myself to be opportunities to grow and change.
I want my words to be beautiful gifts. I want to spread joy and positivity. And I can, through Jesus who helps me to be the best me that I can possibly be.
It's the season of giving, let's give some beautiful gifts to those we see!